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Porn, Is It Really that Bad?
February 10, 2010
This may come as a surprise to the believing women out there: Men like sex. Yes, even those guys with the big beards, the woolen cap, and the pants that are conspicuously above the ankles – they also like sex. In fact, most men are programmed to like sex – even more than women. If you doubt this, you can find numerous articles on the subject all over the web. One of the many articles I found details research finding that men think about sex 13 times a day while women merely fantasize of Mr. McSteamy five times a day (hopefully not whilst praying).
But we do not have to resort to such empirically inspired academic findings to establish this well-known fact. You can ask any jihadi on the Afghan-Pakistani border about his motivations for engaging in his jihad. Aside from a perverse and juristically inaccurate explanation that God desires war against all nonbelievers; the average jihadi never fails to mention the 72 virgins that are eagerly awaiting the soon to be exploded warrior. The Western media, of course, loves to get these guys on tape. I mean, promising celestial intercourse to induce someone to kill himself and many others, even as a fringe benefit, now that really is hilarious – and 72 virgins, the precision of the number is even more funny even after discounting for the anachronistic nature of the statement. But we should not delude ourselves into thinking that this type of thought process comes from outside Islam. The fact of the matter is, Islam, as din al fitra is surprisingly blunt about sexual desire, and thank God that it is.
If this is shocking to you, I suggest you actually read the religious texts of our religion (and not just selectively). In fact, you can read the religious texts of other religions too. Being religious and prudish is not necessarily correlated. Being religious and graceful, modest, and chaste – that is piety. For example Islam, Judaism, and Hinduism contain a significant amount of literature on sex – and it’s mostly good! Unlike some of our fellow peoples of the book, Islam encourages sex, and in a famous hadith of the Prophet, we are told that sex with your spouse is actually a virtuous act which is rewarded by God. According to the Old Testament, Solomon had several hundred wives and concubines; in fact, the Old Testament alleges that his preoccupation with his wives led him astray (let’s not even talk about the innuendos regarding the story of the Queen of Sheba). From Hinduism we learn that sexual intercourse is a means of experiencing spiritual enlightenment, and the Kama Sutra is not merely the title of a pornographic video starring a Latina dressed in a burqa, rather it is an ancient Sanskrit text believed to be inspired by an individual who overheard the sounds of lovemaking between the God Shiva and the Goddess Parvati. Obviously this trite survey of religious attitudes of some faiths towards sex is not exhaustive nor is it comprehensive, but I state these simple examples only to quash the irrational presupposition of religious zealots that believers are not, and certainly cannot be, sexual beings. Au contraire my recently clubbing-turned-bearded friend, your newfound religiosity is admirable but still superficial, so please don’t assume that the natural inclination for sex should be suppressed because it is inherently bad or religiously regrettable. Continue reading